Intimate Partner Violence
The APA states that 1 in 3 women and more than 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of intimate partner violence in their lifetime
Intimate partner violence, also called domestic violence, occurs between people in an intimate relationship. It can take many forms including, controlling behavior, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual abuse. Intimate partner violence can occur between not only adults, but also within teen relationships as well as in the LGBTQ community.
Examples of intimate partner violence
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Physical Violence (e.g., hitting, biting, pinching, hair pulling, choking, pushing, burning, using weapons, slamming head against something)
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Sexual Violence (e.g., being forced into sexual acts, being pressured into sexual acts, unwanted sexual contact)
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Coercion or threats (e.g., threatening to harm you, themselves, or others, threatening to “out” you)
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Stalking (e.g., patter of harassing or threatening tactics that is unwanted and causes fear or safety concerns)
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Intimidation (e.g., making you afraid by using looks, gesture, and actions)
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Emotional abuse (e.g., putting you down, playing mind games)
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Isolation (e.g., limiting who you talk to, saying no one will believe you)
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Denying, minimizing, blaming (e.g., saying the abuse didn’t happen. saying you “made” them abuse you, making light of the abuse)
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Using children (e.g., threatening to take children, using children to relay messages)
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Using privilege (e.g., treating you like a servant)
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Economic abuse (e.g., preventing you from getting or keeping a job, making you ask for money)
Signs of domestic abuse
You might be experiencing domestic abuse if your partner:
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Uses intimidating, hurtful words and behaviors to control you
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Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
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Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing family members or friends
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Tries to control how you spend your money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear
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Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
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Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
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Threatens you with violence or a weapon
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Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes, or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
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Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
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Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it
Treatment at CARE
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Learn what differentiates healthy, unhealthy, and abusive relationships
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Learn effective ways of communication
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Learn coping skills
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Learn about boundaries
Teen Dating Violence
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- According to the 2017 National Youth Risk Behavior Survey, 8% of high school students reported physical violence and 7% reported that they experienced sexual violence from a dating partner in the 12 months before the survey.
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- Teens who are experiencing dating violence are at higher risk for depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), substance abuse, and suicidal ideation.
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Intimate partner violence in the LGBTQ+ community
- People in the LGTBQ+ community report being victim/survivors of intimate partner violence more than non-LGBTQ people. On top of this, they may be less likely to seek help due to past negative experiences, fear of being “outed”, and worry that professionals-such as mental health providers, medical professionals, and law enforcement- will not understand or invalidate their experiences
Additional Resources
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- Websites:
- National Domestic Abuse Hotline
- Sexual Violence Center (SVC)
- Domestic Abuse Project (DAP)
- Hotlines:
- National Domestic Abuse Hotline:
- 1-800-799-7233
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- Sexual Assault Hotline: 203-333-2233
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Phone
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Minneapolis, MN
55405
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310 Clifton Ave
Minneapolis, MN
55403